What all of these great suggestions lack is the how do you do it.They skirt the real questions of how to pay for it, how to get the skilled team of staff you need and then how to retain as much senior control over their life as possible while having the plan for the future. None of the above “tips” address the facts that caregiving is time consuming, expensive, and very emotionally charged especially for family caregivers.
The fact is senior care and care giving is time consuming, skilled and expensive.As your parents age and undergo the usual cognitive changes and often times changes compounded by dementia with paranoia those changes increase the stress for family caregivers who have to deal with the fact and normal emotional resistance all humans have to accepting defeat and losing control over their lives.
Less well known Alzheimer’s Disease Behavior Triggers – Being the son or daughter!Any father or mother is upset by knowing or just feeling they have lost the role of father to a son or daughter and now are the child. That is not a feeling any of us ever are prepared for and is a root cause for many difficulties for family caregivers. In fact the son is taking more control of the parent’s life and decision making but it is out of necessity. That is a very difficult thing for normal human parent’s minds to accept. That goes against all emotional survival training our parents have learned thought out life. In all cases, the go to emotional and coping approaches of be positive and think better things are coming no longer work. We need to accept that to fix it.
Other triggers for needing more Dementia CareThe trigger and worsening of that understanding or exaggerated belief often comes when a family notes mom or dad needs more help than incidental family assistance. For example mom can’t reliably take her pills and someone else needs to fill the pill box and remind her two or three times a day to take the pills. The issue of safe driving or signing an estate plan and essentially giving away all of your money with no known, expected, proven extended family care plan or extended family care team to reasonably rely on for care of the parent as they age. If we ask ourselves how would our nuclear family care for us if we were in an car accident right now and we needed that amount of help we would correctly be concerned too. Would we all just give away our life savings? Would we trust the family could provide the complex broad based care that we need and which will increase in the future?
Look for places that show commitment, build professional social relationships and accept some extended social responsibility. Extended family care teams.While many places advertise age in place or “we care” few advertise we want to be responsible, or we can visit you when you are out of our facility, or we want to have all family call us any time. Most managers delegate that work to a staffer but in fact health care and senior care are very personal items that is it hard to delegate. Second, senor care is inherently complicated by complex medical issues that most managers do not know how to approach. All of which leads to super specialized but disjointed, difficult to use and trust systems of health care. In the old days the doctor did a lot of outpatient, social work and coordination of care but with the loss of the old fashioned doctor you need other choices that can bring back that sense of responsibility for care and expectation of ongoing care. The new solution for caregiver stress that save money, offers more complete care, and reduces stress for the entire multi – generational family. Will be in our next post. Hint find an extended family care team and setting which is the one stop shop for all of your senior care needs. The senior care value buffet. See you in my next post. Like, shares, comments appreciated. Register for free, and comment. Usefull Links TLCSRLV youtube Channel. Subscribe for free. Frustrated with Home Care Service? Get Home Care answers here! Likes, shares, comments help us to continue to post these free educational tips. Dr Shawn McGivney
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Alzheimers Disease Diagnostic CriteriaAnother mainly unstudied issue is the truth that plaques and tangles which are thought to be so important in at least early beginning Alzheimer’s Disease before 60 yrs old are confused when you include the reality that before the 1980’s and the introduction of CT of the head was started it was not used to include what in fact is a a lot more likely cause of cognitive loss which is small strokes. These can be called TIA, micro-vascular finding, or UBO’s on MRI. What we do understand is that it is way to very early to say what Alzheimer’s is and is not and how to separate out and quantify just how much of each part of aging that is influencing each of these Alzheimer’s cases.
New Alzheimer’s diagnostic criteria.We applaud this study effort and keep in mind a strategy to establish a tracer so we can in fact follow the plaques and tangles to lastly attempt to associate amount and sort of plaques and tangles which is the first step to in fact find Alzheimer’s and then establish treatments. Without that are reacting to drugs and since plaques and tangles are so typical in normal brains the rest is much less scientifically and reproducible.
Missing diagnostic elements for Alzheimer’s diseaseThe diagnostic requirements are subjective and are complicated by constantly consisting of that “the signs and signs can not be due to any other issue.” In fact, older people have many concerns like poor balance, some quantity of dysphoria from numerous sorts of loss numerous verging on mild depression.
Alzheimer’s disease and SDAT ResourcesAlzheimer’s research to define dementia is needed. However, brain diseases are hard to study and mild alzheimers will be hard to distinguish from personality disorder and just mild mood disorders. Unfortunately defining the stages of any process has wide variation and alzheimers disease stages are no different. Early senility, early-stage, early onset Alzheimer’s Disease or moderate alzheimers are issues. In severe stage alzheimers one of the biggest issues in treatment are the related delusions, paranoia that come with it. Foundations like alz.org and the Alzheimer’s association and all alzheimers research has value. But right now and most likely forever, the best, most cost effective, treatment is finding the best care givers and care team you can. National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke Family Style Alzheimer’s care. IF YOU ENJOYED THIS POST – LIKE AND SHARE IT. Dr Shawn McGivney
At-home test may help diagnose Alzheimer’sNEW TEST TO DIAGNOSE ALZHEIMER’S. 4 pg test, with written questions to answer and drawings. While this article brings up another new tool the doctor can use to prompt himself to ask a wide range of questions in the interview it is not new. A doctor always uses interview questions coupled with history and medical exam to narrow down all causes of cognitive loss so I am not sure how new this is. Alzheimer’s is very difficult to diagnoses as a single pure entity and in fact most often Alzheimer’s overlaps a lot with many other things like Dementia, Parkinson’s, Neurological issues, wide based gait, and cns vascular disease to name some. Indeed, aging and benign forgetfulness also is in there to complicate the diagnosis and all the life causes of poor mood as one ages and declines in function. In fact, a depressed mood in many ways is “normal” when faced with the end of life and loss of your friends, own abilities, and prospects for the future. To call all of this Alzheimer’s or anything to me is misleading and instead I would prefer we focus on the treatment of having the best, most consistent, care team possible to deal with all chronically ill people no matter what the label. I am also not sure how they will treat cognitive loss differently from how they do today if you find it. The current meds Aricept, Namenda, Exelon are hit or miss at best.
HERE IS WHAT WORKS AND HAS WORKED FOR ALL MEDICAL CARE AND ALZHEIMER’S CARE IF INDEED “ALZHEIMER’S” EVER EXISTS BY ITSELF WITHOUT OTHER MEDICAL, SOCIAL, FINANCIAL AND LIFE ISSUES.
The one treatment that works for all humans is caring and relationship building with the best care team you can find. If you jump from one doctor to the next or the doctors don’t feel invested enough to stick with you as their / your treatment ideas are implemented and evolve you can imagine the care might be disjointed, incomplete and there by less effective.
Medicine is a process of trying various treatments and then following closely the response and adjusting those treatments. People change, treatments change or evolve, and emotional health is all about relationships so that is the best and most cost effective treatment for all chronic disease and Alzheimer’s disease.
If you have a personal care team with a team leader or doctor who is active in sticking with you and willing to lead and make care decisions you can adjust to all diseases and emotional issues that arise. Instead what we see is referral of the work and risk of the care and decision making to the next doctor. In some ways that is kind of like warren buffets weapons of mass destruction and selling the toxic mortgages down the road to the next sucker but in this case we are hurting the humans and are passing along human suffering. Homes are tangible products which in most cases are used and lived in and not decaying as a human being would which the service contract or mortgage is passed along. In that case do not harm is the harm. Being unwilling to make the diagnosis and try a treatment is more risky than not trying and just doing nothing or “no harm”. You never know what will happen and what will change after you make the first choice of treatment to try that is why medicine is an art and clinical process and requires continuity of care and a steady relationship with the doctor to follow, adjust, and evolve your multiple level of treatments. Even if your first treatment works you would not stop there but will add, adjust, modify treatment constantly. There is no one flow sheet to follow. All humans are complex beings and the choices in treatment are even more complex when you include the finance, social and emotional elements of those treatments.
Those who read my blog will recognize this quote that really sums up all medical and human caring:
“If you treat the disease you win or lose but if you treat the person you win NO MATTER WHAT THE OUTCOME.” Patch Adams, the movie Patch.
That last part is the key. If the doctor and patient stick together, work together, in all care settings dealing with ALL PHYSICAL, MEDICAL, EMOTIONAL, SOCIAL, AND COMPLEX OVERLAPPING LIFE ISSUES then you and those around you who care and are active in the care process are likely to feel that they have made a difference and done the best possible in these difficult situations. One might even say they feel good about whatever happens.
We all have the choice to choose our care setting and there by care team. If you instead choose the insurance first then you really have no idea who or what care you will get. Also if the doctor is the direct employee in practice of the insurance company and he has less or no expected interdependent relationship with the patient and their social system then it is likely both will act to protect themselves first and the care will be less consistent. The patient might save money since that is all they can do and the doctor / representative of the insurance company might save time and pass the toxic risk / work of providing care, trying, making decisions to the next doctor.
GOOD NEWS! WE ARE IN CONTROL. WE CAN CHOOSE OUR CARE SETTING AND CARE TEAM!We all can visit many care settings and choose the one we want to pay for. If we have Medicaid or are on a government program we still can choose by visiting many providers of that care type and choosing one closest to our most frequent visitor and the best one. We all need to make the time and take the time for this search when it comes.
I hope all are empowered by this. You can choose! All doctors and care settings are not the same. Your control is by visiting many and choosing the best care team possible. Indeed, in the end you might find it is cheaper to pay a fixed price than the bait and switch model of a relatively lower advertised cost for the room and then add ons for the care or assistance and medication management etc.What do you think? Share your views here.
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Read the article here Dementia Care costs top $100 billion The headlines are clear.A new study puts the cost of treating Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia at $109 billion, making it more expensive to society than either cancer or heart disease. Moreover, the current crisis will continue to grow rapidly as the baby boomers in America age. What is less clear is the answer to that question of how to provide the care, in a humanistic and family oriented way, at a reasonable cost. We want to suggest THE CURE TO THE INDIVIDUAL AND GLOBAL HEALTH CARE CRISIS. TLCSR is the pilot study that answers the question!
By focusing on continuity of care, people including care team, residents and family society benefits and the care provided is socially more complete. That is how you get the best value for Senior Care dollars and fix the problem of the global and individual health care crises. More good news is you dont have to wait for the goverment to help you find the Best, Most Cost Effective, Alzheimer’s and Dementia Care. You can do it yourself right now! Visit Tlcsr.com and tlcsr2.com to find out what to look for in all Senior Care Settings.
How can Continuity of Care and the TLCSR model of care be the cure for both the individual and global health care crises?
Our plan cures the issue not only of Dementia Care and Alzheimer’s care but helps fix the individual and global health care crisis. We have seen a mis use of funds away from the direct care system to sub specialities many of whom say ” I only do this or that.” That disjointed level of care leads to expensive and less comprehensive care. A la Cart billing is good for the CEO, Stock holder and the companies bottom line but the servcie buffect, in-kind services, and mothers family style care is better for getting care when needed. We are not blaming any one person since everyone has participated in getting where we are. Doctor, Families, Individuals, insurance companies and the government. What is needed is a better understanding of what care is. How many of us have at one time or another under valued a caregiver, a mother, a domestic worker, who cares for us? I have at times felt that as the “skilled” doctor I was smarter, better, than someone less educated. By doing years of direct care for my own parents mother and now father I see that caregiving is a skill! Indeed, my wife and sister do it differently and in many ways better than I do. Now after 10 years as a direct caregiver I am a much better caregiver. My view is very unique in that few doctors are given the change to do direct care.Care does include emotional and social care.
Feelings are the final expression of all Health care no mater what the label. Indeed most studies specifically exclude feelings, emotional health, social and financial variables since they cant study them. Even if we cant study them they are the most improtant factor in work, productivity, feeling good, family and social wellness. Read our post on care vs caring or how are physical care and caring different as other reading. These are not the total answer but they start to provide guidance as to how we can value each other, family, mothers and caregivers more and in turn get more caring and value for our health care and life spending.Tender Loving Care Senior Residence advertised Continuity of Care and complete care and not just urgent care or quick care.
Indeed, do you want a quick fix or heart felt care from someone who is INVESTED IN YOU FOR THE LONG RUN?A hospitalist who cares for you for a week, then another doctor in rehab for a week, then … In all cases you have to be your own doctor and coordinating the care. While you know how you feel you probably do not really know which tests you would pay for if you were spending your own money. The tests with the best value physically and emotionally to you. You are not a doctor, you do not know how to quantify risk, benefit, or cost. Did you know it is cheaper to buy many medications for cash, out of pocket than, to pay just the copay? Yes, the co pay alone is more than paying cash! Why you ask. The systme makes more money. You have almost no way to know the details of what is needed, and the magnitide of the risks and benefits of your choices even if you are informed. That is why you need a doctor. The probloem is the doctor directly or indirectly works for someone other than you. The relationsnip with you and the doctor is indirect and short lived. Continuity of care can help all get more care, better care, for a better price or value.
That is especially true in Dementia Care where the care team is the best treatment for Dementia.Find the most continuity of care and complete care, find the best individual members of your care team and you will get the best value for your Senior Care dollars. WE NEED YOUR HELP! THIS AFFECTS ALL OF US RIGHT
NOW BY AFFECTING AT LEAST ONE PERSON IN OUR EXTENDED SOCIAL CIRCLES AND EACH OF US INDIVIDUALLY AS THE BABY BOOM WASHES OVER AMERICA.Help spread the word. Make this viral!! Click for The Best, Most Cost Effective, Dementia and Alzheimer’s Care!. Dr Shawn McGivney